It's Wonderful Being a Girl

When I was in the 6th grade, the nuns at my school herded the girls from our class into the auditorium. We didn't really know what they had in mind, but we knew it was going to be different and no boys were allowed.

The school nurse stood on the stage and told us we were going to learn about important changes our bodies were about to go through. Roll film.

(From the Journal of The American Academy of Pediatrics, Vol. 27, 1961)
It's Wonderful Being A Girl: 16 mm., color, sound, showing time 19 minutes. Produced in 1959 by Audio Productions Inc., for Personal Products Corporation, Milltown, N.J.
The purpose of this film is to encourage a healthful knowledge of the menstrual process and positive attitudes for girls who are just beginning to menstruate. On her 14th birthday, Linda Brown decides that it's wonderful to be a girl growing up, It's wonderful to have parties and dates, make new friendships, learn new skills, and develop your talents. It's wonderful to know about yourself, recognize your bodily changes, and understand what menstruation is and how to live with it happily.

This film story covers a year of Linda's life and shows how she arrives at these happy conclusions. She learns from her mother what to expect when menstruation occurs. She begins to scorn the old wives' tales she has heard and the superstitious attitudes she has seen. When she begins to menstruate, she finds that it need not hamper her in successfully meeting the challenges of everyday life.

At school a teacher's thorough explanation...provides Linda with the important facts about how she became the girl she is. Discussions in the class reveal that a girl's menstrual periods need not limit her activities.

This film is to be commended for its emphasis on the fact that menstruation is a perfectly normal process in the life of girls. It helps to create proper attitudes for girls who may have some problems in adjusting to menstruation, particularly in the beginning. The story is well developed and the film is effective because it closely approximates life situations for girls in this age group. Good mother-daughter and teacher-student relationships are demonstrated.

This film was actually produced by a division of Johnson & Johnson, and included prominent product placement. Still, it got the job done and the nuns were off the hook as far as discussing menstruation. After the film, a motherly lay teacher met with us and discussed hygiene and discretion--hey, it was 1972 and the first Tampax commercial was still many years away.

Product placement. Samples. We all got samples. Thick, bulky sanitary napkins--they were nothing like today's streamlined, multi-option, self-stick, individually wrapped, maxi-pads. In retrospect, I suppose the samples came along with renting the film.

Although my friends and I snickered at this whole episode for weeks, as an adult, I realize that we were fortunate that somebody took the time to take us through the facts of getting our period. We probably weren't really ready for what was ahead, but at least we had some idea of what to expect.

When I think about the African girls who are the daughters of the women I know, I feel like they are, culturally speaking, back in 1972. Nobody discusses the start of menstruation until it actually starts, and even after that, there's not much to be said. Television is full of commercials for tampons, maxi-pads, panty liners, Pamprin, and happy periods, yet for newcomers to our culture, this is an appalling breach of decency. Can you imagine trying to reconcile this paradox if you're a young refugee girl in America?

These girls have no way to get the supplies they need to manage monthly periods, their fathers control the money (so no asking there), and the moms aren't really current on this topic themselves. The host culture gives the message that having a period is just another bodily function and there's no need to let it impact day-to-day life. At home, it's an off-limits discussion. How does a girl ask for what she needs to fit in here, like a normal kid?

I propose this: A maxi-pad drive. There are many ways to handle distribution--that is not a problem at all. Bring on the pads and we'll take care of the rest.

Is this bizarre? Absolutely. Is it necessary? Without question.

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The First Reply

This is exactly the response I am expecting from all of the manufacturers. I understand their point. They get a lot of requests, so they go for the big organizations, like the Red Cross, where they can maximize their giving and their PR exposure, as well. I haven't asked any of them for products--I only asked them to seriously consider expanding their charitable programs domestically. Hey, at least they wrote back!

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Put your mind at ease

Did you feel a lot of anxiety when you started your period? OK, it's fair enough to say that most girls have anxiety about a lot of things in their early teens, but one thing that looms above all else is the start of menstruation. The girls I know feel anxious about two things in particular: the unpredictability of their period, and the worry about whether or not they are normal or fitting in as compared to their peers. For girls who are negotiating their way through adolesence in two cultures, the girl world seems particularly problematic.

As I set out to brush up on my knowledge of this topic, I was reminded about how frustrated I was about getting information about my period. I had been given the most basic facts: the movie, an accompanying booklet with illustrations, and not much else. My mother was far too embarrassed to tell me more. I remember her avoiding my questions with short answers that lacked substance. I wanted to know if I could use tampons. I wanted to know why my period came at such wildly erratic intervals. I worried that people would know I had my period and it embarrassed me. A lot. That was in the early 1970s, and I like to think that things have changed.

Some attitudes have changed and some have not. There is a lot more information--good information--available to girls and moms now. When I was a kid, there was no Internet, there was nothing in the school library, and most of what I learned came from Teen and Seventeen magazines. Online forums provide a venue where girls can educate themselves and let go of some that lip-chewing anxiety.

Some resources for you if you need them:

First periods, early teens, body changes, social considerations

• A mother's questions about her daughter's first period
• Questions from teen girls
• The facts, written in a friendly, accessible style for teens, from TeenHealth.
• From the teens' section of Discovery Health Channel's Website, another teen/preteen article about the nuts and bolts of the topic. This one actually mentions that at menarche, a girl's body is capable of becoming pregnant (gasp!). You may find during your own research that this little factoid is often absent from the larger discussion.
• More links, more info from About.com
• Children's Hospital has a really nice site for girls called the Center for Young Women's Health. This might be an appropriate site for parents and girls who feel uncomfortable discussing all things girlie.