Yes, we still follow that topic

We still follow this topic, and it continues to be an issue the refugee women are always negotiating, as well. With a new culture and different economic factors come new options and pressures.

Here are some stories on the topic that got our attention recently.

First, from NPR, a story about AFRIpads and how they're helping Ugandan girls stay in school when they're menstruating:

Photo via AFRIpad

Click here to read this story of empowerment and entrepreneurship.


In May, the Atlantic Magazine published an article about the history of the tampon. It generated quite a bit of online discussion. The story itself is absorbing (pun intended). You can find that article here.

The associated articles are, Don't Let them See Your Tampons, which takes a look at issues of discretion and feeling the need to hide your monthly protection.

The other article is The Tampon Taboo: Your Thoughts, a compilation of reader comments and discussion about the other two articles.

It seems hard to believe that in 2015, people are still weirded out by periods. Hey, they happen. Monthly. To about half the human population.

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Shopping

While shopping for supplies for the girls today, I was a little overwhelmed with the choices in front of me. In 1972, when I was on the verge of puberty, there were no real choices in how to tend to one's period. There was Modess and there was Kotex, and that was about it. There was a very new innovation just in time for girls my age: self-stick pads. No more need for a belt or special underwear.

How different things are today. The dizzying array before me in the feminine protection aisle was a true reflection of our acceptance of menstruation as a normal part of life. We have commercials on prime-time TV, billboards, and more. Still, those things are discreet enough to never mention the word 'blood,' and to never actually explain the difference between all of those new and improved menstrual products. How is a girl supposed to figure all of this out? How do manufacturers expect to build brand loyalty if they don't talk about what their brand does, exactly, and who it is best suited for?

I came away with regular maxi pads, maxi pads with wings, long maxi pads, thin maxi pads, ultra-thin maxi pads, overnight maxi pads, maximum protection maxi pads, slender maxi pads, extra-dry maxi pads, compact/ultra-thin maxi pads, maxi pads with freshening wipes, Stayfree maxi pads, Kotex maxi pads, Always maxi pads, store brand maxi pads, jumbo-pack maxi pads, individually wrapped maxi pads, and five packages of Carefree panty liners. All unscented, but several with odor-absorbing, odor-neutralizing technology. It was a maxi pad buffet, and I sampled liberally on behalf of the girls. With any luck, my friends and I will be able to explain the differences between these products and give the girls some guidance in making choices for themselves.

My mother was so uncomfortable discussing this topic--mortified, actually--I didn't really know what was normal or what wasn't in terms of my period and how it felt and behaved. As I remembered this today, I stopped and picked up a couple of heating pads and several small bottles of ibuprofen. I also plan to put together a handout explaining basic yoga-type stretches that the girls can try when they feel crampy or irritable.

Since we're approaching this from a self-care and hygiene perspective, I also stocked up on lots of body wash in teen-girl-friendly scents (Very Berry Smoothie? Really?) and lots of antiperspirant.

I cannot imagine being in middle school or high school and not having access to these very personal items. The girls have been doing little jobs here and there to earn a bit of money to buy the things they need to take good care of themselves. Here's hoping they'll now have a better idea of what to choose and how to use it. The teen years are awkward enough.

(I found the photo of the feminine products via a Google image search. Thank you to the photographer who made it available via her Flickr account.)

Help a girl. Change the world. Ready--Go!

I invite you to share in a five-minute food-for-thought snack. You'll feel a sense of fullness you didn't expect. I encourage you to also click on the two orange links at the bottom of the presentation screen: About and Fact Sheet, as well as any other links that appear.

Go to http://www.girleffect.org/.

After the initial presentation, take a look at the "Learn, Change, Share" logo on the upper left side of the screen. Click on the words for more information and some insightful videos.

As a friend of a program that has a huge stake in the education of girls and women, I hope that you find inspiration in this short presentation.

The girls

(click photo to enlarge)
Tukano, Aziza,Madina, Hawa, Amina, Hawa, Arbay

Until now, readers of this blog may have felt that our cause has involved faceless girls who seem more like an abstract idea than real teens struggling to live in two cultures simultaneously. They are real, they do have faces, and they are not nameless.

These are faces of potential and hope. This is what beauty, intelligence, and a life of possibilites look like. These are the girls we're helping with this site.

It's Wonderful Being a Girl

When I was in the 6th grade, the nuns at my school herded the girls from our class into the auditorium. We didn't really know what they had in mind, but we knew it was going to be different and no boys were allowed.

The school nurse stood on the stage and told us we were going to learn about important changes our bodies were about to go through. Roll film.

(From the Journal of The American Academy of Pediatrics, Vol. 27, 1961)
It's Wonderful Being A Girl: 16 mm., color, sound, showing time 19 minutes. Produced in 1959 by Audio Productions Inc., for Personal Products Corporation, Milltown, N.J.
The purpose of this film is to encourage a healthful knowledge of the menstrual process and positive attitudes for girls who are just beginning to menstruate. On her 14th birthday, Linda Brown decides that it's wonderful to be a girl growing up, It's wonderful to have parties and dates, make new friendships, learn new skills, and develop your talents. It's wonderful to know about yourself, recognize your bodily changes, and understand what menstruation is and how to live with it happily.

This film story covers a year of Linda's life and shows how she arrives at these happy conclusions. She learns from her mother what to expect when menstruation occurs. She begins to scorn the old wives' tales she has heard and the superstitious attitudes she has seen. When she begins to menstruate, she finds that it need not hamper her in successfully meeting the challenges of everyday life.

At school a teacher's thorough explanation...provides Linda with the important facts about how she became the girl she is. Discussions in the class reveal that a girl's menstrual periods need not limit her activities.

This film is to be commended for its emphasis on the fact that menstruation is a perfectly normal process in the life of girls. It helps to create proper attitudes for girls who may have some problems in adjusting to menstruation, particularly in the beginning. The story is well developed and the film is effective because it closely approximates life situations for girls in this age group. Good mother-daughter and teacher-student relationships are demonstrated.

This film was actually produced by a division of Johnson & Johnson, and included prominent product placement. Still, it got the job done and the nuns were off the hook as far as discussing menstruation. After the film, a motherly lay teacher met with us and discussed hygiene and discretion--hey, it was 1972 and the first Tampax commercial was still many years away.

Product placement. Samples. We all got samples. Thick, bulky sanitary napkins--they were nothing like today's streamlined, multi-option, self-stick, individually wrapped, maxi-pads. In retrospect, I suppose the samples came along with renting the film.

Although my friends and I snickered at this whole episode for weeks, as an adult, I realize that we were fortunate that somebody took the time to take us through the facts of getting our period. We probably weren't really ready for what was ahead, but at least we had some idea of what to expect.

When I think about the African girls who are the daughters of the women I know, I feel like they are, culturally speaking, back in 1972. Nobody discusses the start of menstruation until it actually starts, and even after that, there's not much to be said. Television is full of commercials for tampons, maxi-pads, panty liners, Pamprin, and happy periods, yet for newcomers to our culture, this is an appalling breach of decency. Can you imagine trying to reconcile this paradox if you're a young refugee girl in America?

These girls have no way to get the supplies they need to manage monthly periods, their fathers control the money (so no asking there), and the moms aren't really current on this topic themselves. The host culture gives the message that having a period is just another bodily function and there's no need to let it impact day-to-day life. At home, it's an off-limits discussion. How does a girl ask for what she needs to fit in here, like a normal kid?

I propose this: A maxi-pad drive. There are many ways to handle distribution--that is not a problem at all. Bring on the pads and we'll take care of the rest.

Is this bizarre? Absolutely. Is it necessary? Without question.

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The First Reply

This is exactly the response I am expecting from all of the manufacturers. I understand their point. They get a lot of requests, so they go for the big organizations, like the Red Cross, where they can maximize their giving and their PR exposure, as well. I haven't asked any of them for products--I only asked them to seriously consider expanding their charitable programs domestically. Hey, at least they wrote back!

Awareness is half the battle here, so please take time to write. The links to each manufacturer's contact form is in the left sidebar.

Thanks for your e-mail to Kimberly-Clark. We appreciate the opportunity to respond to your request.

Because our products and our company have become so well known over the years, we have been invited to assist in many fine programs and projects. Although we would certainly like to help, the volume of requests is simply too great to accommodate. We are sorry for any disappointment.

Thanks again for your interest in our products and for taking the time to contact us.

Lisa S.
Consumer Services
Kimberly-Clark Corp.

From Procter & Gamble:
We appreciate your taking the time to let us know how you feel. Please be assured I'm sharing all of your comments with our P&G Management Team.

Thanks again for writing!

P&G Team